You may consider making a counselling appointment
you find that support from friends and family just isn’t enough, or the
problem is too difficult or personal to
discuss with friends and family. You may feel that no one understands
what you are going through or worry what others might think if they knew
what was upsetting you.
you have tried to handle things on your own but the problem still
persists. Counselling offers a unique
opportunity to explore new coping strategies and resources available to
you to help you find effective solutions to whatever is troubling you.
you have experienced a traumatic event like an unexpected or sudden loss
and you can’t stop thinking about it. You may
wonder ‘if only I had…’ or, you may even blame yourself for what has
happened. Finding a supportive person to talk to will help make grief
feel less overwhelming.
What can I expect if I go to
A registered, professionally
…is a supportive,
objective person you can talk to about whatever thoughts and feelings
you are experiencing
…listens without judgment or criticism.
…provides information about what you might expect and what might help
with your concerns.
…will work collaboratively with you to develop coping strategies for
your unique situation, that fit with who you are.
…will help you clarify your concerns and tap into personal strengths and
resources that might be currently overlooked.
…may help you explore things that have happened in your past that might
be interfering with your current situation.
…may help you find ways to express your feelings and understand where
they are coming from.
…will make assessments for things like depression and suicide risk in
order to provide further referrals, if needed.
…directs you to other resources available to you.
What prevents people from
Of course, counselling is not the only way to seek help. Having said
that, many of the reasons that people use to avoid making a counselling
appointment are simply incorrect beliefs or assumptions. Here are a few
that I have heard:
It is better to put up a
“brave front” rather than show your true feelings.
How often have you said “I’m fine” when someone asks how you are doing,
even when things are not fine?
Only people with really
serious problems need to go to counselling.
I can handle this on my own.
I’ll get help if I need it.
I don’t want to keep talking
about it- it will just make me cry.
Counselling is great for
other people, it’s just not for me.
I wouldn’t want my friends or
coworkers to know that I went to counselling.
I don’t have time for
counselling right now.
Be honest with
yourself in determining whether your reason for not going to counselling
is a valid one. If you are not receiving the support you need from your
circle of family or friends, and you choose not to seek help from other
sources, you are the person that loses out.